One of the reasons I have always taken as much responsibility for the failures of those in my Ohana. Often people are unavailable to forgive themselves without an external source to do so for them.
Early in my life l learned if I take responsibility for everything, oftentimes it gives the space for them to look at the situation and take back the responsibility they can accept.
Unfortunately, it took a long time for me to realize that toxic individuals will happily never take back their responsibility and never grow as a result.
And, the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do is walk away from those people, because when I don’t, not only will I continue to be taken advantage of, but they really are causing injury to themselves.