Fatherless Homes effect on the children and some their futures too.
Transcript from the video below:
In 2011, I joined the board for a local charity called Nevada Youth Empowerment Project, or NYEP. NYEP is a housing program for homeless girls ages 18 to 24. As board president of this small charity, I’ve been closely involved and gotten to know the girls and their tragic stories over the years. Hundreds of otherwise homeless girls have come to our program.
Their backgrounds and what they have endured would haunt you. Do you know the one thing all of these girls have in common?
They all come from fatherless homes.
Sadly, these girls aren’t the exception; they’re the rule.
According to the Center for Disease Control, children from fatherless homes account for 90 percent of all homeless and runaway kids, 71 percent of high school dropouts, and 63 percent of youth suicides.
While children deserve both parents whenever possible, this crisis is specific to fathers. The occurrence of fatherlessness is epidemic, the effects are catastrophic, and the causes are male gender specific.
Nearly 30 years ago, leading child psychologist Michael Lamb reminded us: “Fathers are the forgotten contributors to child development.” Yet, researchers have found that children with involved fathers have stronger cognitive and motor skills, elevated physical and mental health, become better problem solvers, and are more confident, curious, and empathetic.
Sadly, we’ve had this data for 30 years, and fatherlessness has only continued to rise during this time.
This is what we know. Every bit of data we have tells us children need their fathers! The law, its application, and society at large disfavor fathers. The law is improving, but the statistics are not.
So, what can you do?
We are the change makers, all of us.
If you’re a father, make the effort, do everything you can to be in your children’s daily lives. If you’re a mother, encourage and facilitate the relationship between your children and their father instead of trying to interfere or control it. If you’re a child, spend time with your dad, ask him to do something, seek his advice and guidance. If you’re an employer, grant the fathers you employ the ability to be at their children’s events, to help in their schools, to take sick days to care for their kids. If you work in the legal field, help us continue to progress, change the laws, and ensure that they’re enforced to protect fathers and their children.
The importance of this pursuit cannot be overstated. The fate of nearly half of America’s children depends on it.
I’d like to close by asking all of you to do one final thing. Please, stand if you are able or raise your hand – I’m serious, please – if you grew up without a father, if you raised or are raising a child without a father, or if you are a father who’s been separated from your child.
Now, look around: the people really affected by fatherlessness. Really, look. Those of you standing and raising your hands aren’t numbers. You’re real living and feeling humans. You’re the children scarred by fatherlessness.
Now let me tell you who can’t stand.
The 1,000 fatherless children who were murdered last year.
The 3,000 fatherless children who died from drugs.
The 3,200 fatherless children who committed suicide last year.
And the 14,000 fatherless children who were incarcerated.